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Christmas Challenges (Part One)

 

Christmas Challenges (Part One) 

The Challenge of Focus

There are those faulty misconceptions, selfish attitudes and actions, and worldly activities that challenge the biblical message, and meaning of Christmas. How does the birth of the Christ-Child cause us to think and act in the right way, during this Christmas season? There are challenges that we face as Christians, at Christmas, as well as all year long; that I want us to look at in this series entitled: Christmas Challenges. 

We will look at four of them: 

1. The Challenge of Focus 

2. The Challenge of Family 

3. The Challenge of Forgiveness 

4. The Challenge of the Future 

The Challenge of Focus 

"Has anyone ever asked you this question? "What did the pastor preach on last Sunday?" You smile, and cringe inside, racking your brain for the subject or verse he used. If you have never been caught in this predicament, what you were trying to remember was a blur in your mind. I think this happens to all of us, and we need to let it be a reminder, to stay focused on the preaching of God's Word. ("Staying Focused" By Terrie Chapell - January 30,2010 Ministry 127) 

When it comes to the message and meaning of the birth of the Christ-Child, we don't want to be like a camera out of focus. Our goal should be to have a clear, steadfast focus on the Biblical presentation and purpose of the angel's announcement to the shepherds, and to the world. 

"Do not be afraid, for behold I bring you good tidings of great joy which will be to all people, "for there is born to you this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord." (Luke 2:10-11) 

I believe there are two words in the angel's announcement that should cut through the blur of the mis-conceptions, and the dominance of the worldly attitudes and activities at Christmas. Those two words are: 

"to you" This announcement is not just a prophetic message, it is a personal message. "For there is born "to you" this day...a Savior, who is Christ the Lord." 

Jesus came into this world to be a Savior for you, and for me. 

The challenge this Christmas, as well as everyday, is to focus on this heavenly gift to us. We need to accept this gift, believe the gift, submit and embrace this gift with all of our heart. 

 Let's not let the confusion and chaos at Christmas cause us to have a spiritual blur of what is most significant, and meaningful at Christmas, and everyday of our lives. If Jesus (as our heavenly gift) is to be Savior, and Lord of our lives. May it be the main focus of our hearts, and our lives. May it be seen in our lives, not only at Christmas, but every moment we live! GP 

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Peace In The Midst Of Change

 

Peace In The Midst Of Change

Have you ever had life turn on a dime? Things were going good, not perfect, but very doable. And then something happened to turn just about everything upside down. That's happened to a lot of people; it has happened to me. Well here are some Biblical insights that I hope will help in the healing and restoration process.

Peace in the Midst of Change

Scripture

"Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." — Hebrews 13:8  

Reflection

Life can shift in an instant. A job loss, a health diagnosis, a move, or unexpected news can leave us feeling shaken and desperate to return to “normal.” Stress rises when the ground beneath us feels unstable. Yet Scripture reminds us that while circumstances change, God does not change.  

Hebrews 13:8 anchors us in this truth: Jesus is constant. His love, His promises, and His presence remain steady even when everything else feels uncertain. When the storm rages, He is the calm. When routines collapse, He is the Rock.  

Think of the disciples in the boat during the storm (Mark 4:35–41). Waves crashed, fear consumed them, and yet Jesus was present. With a word, He brought peace. In the same way, He speaks peace into our chaos today.  

Encouragement

God is your stability: Even if life feels upside down, His character never shifts.  

You don’t have to fix everything at once: God invites you to rest in Him while He works.  

Peace is possible now: Not when things return to “normal,” but right here in the middle of change.  

Prayer

Lord, You know the stress and fear that sudden changes bring. Thank You that You never change, even when everything else does. Help me to trust You as my anchor. Speak peace into my heart and guide me step by step. Remind me that You are faithful yesterday, today, and forever. Amen.  

Practical Step

Take five minutes today to pause and breathe deeply. As you inhale, whisper: “God is with me.” As you exhale, whisper: “I will trust Him.” Repeat until your heart begins to rest in His unchanging presence.  

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Family Expectations

"While He was still speaking to the crowds, behold, His mother and brothers were standing outside, seeking to speak to Him. Someone said to Him, “Behold, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside seeking to speak to You.”But Jesus answered the one who was telling Him and said, “Who is My mother and who are My brothers?” And stretching out His hand toward His disciples, He said, “Behold My mother and My brothers! For whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.” (Matthew 12:46-50) 

From our text, we see where Jesus places his family, in regards to His relationship with the Heavenly Father, and His purpose.

While Jesus was speaking to the people, His family show up, and want to speak to Him. Jesus gave a surprising response in the words of our text. In what He said, is Jesus saying that family is not important? No, but family is not to be more important than our relationship to God. and our ministry for Him.

But the irony of it is, that if we place God as first and foremost in our lives, our family relationships will be better, as well as all, of our relationships. God will show us from His Word, how we are to treat each other, and how we can minister to one another.

The main goal of our lives is to do the will of our Heavenly Father. In many families there are many expectations. And for some, if you don't meet those expectations, you are treated coldly. Some family members will not speak to one another for a long period of time because of this.

The greatest commandments are the expectations of our Heavenly Father. We are to love Him, with all that we have, and we are to love each other unconditionally. Yes, it is a matter of priorities, and a matter of humility and submission.

I know that even when I mess up and do not live up to the expectations of God, that He still loves me, and will not abandon me. We all need to get a grip on what is greatly important and adjust to fulfilling the will of God in all of our lives. GP

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Precious Thanksgiving Memories

 

Precious Thanksgiving Memories

"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change." (James 1:17)

One the precious gifts the Lord has given me is a Thanksgiving memory illustrated in our post-article photo. I remember watching my grandmother meticulously cook and tend to the turkey for our Thanksgiving dinner. I remember the many TG dinners, where she cooked for a house full of family and friends. I hope you have good Thanksgiving memories as well.

As Christmas looms on the horizon, we focus on the gift giving at Christmas, in hopes that we find our loved ones that one and perfect gift. In our text, we can agree with James, that our best efforts at gift giving, cannot compare with the gifts that come from our "Father of lights."

Of course, what can compare to the gift of His Son, who was given, to meet our desperate need of salvation, and the hope of eternal life. (John 3:16)

But In looking back on the year, leading right up to Christmas, God has given me, and my family, the gift of His presence, and providence in our lives. He has not left any stone unturned. The apostle Paul writes, "And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 4:19)

In God's way, and in His time, the gifts of His love, come pouring into our lives. 

This picture that reflects the love and sacrifice of my grandmother, not only at Thanksgiving, but in the days she was present in my life, reflects the love and sacrifice of our Lord, and Savior Jesus Christ. He came to this world, on behalf of the Father, to bring to us new life, and new hope. Precious Thanksgiving memories, how precious to sooth our souls! GP

You Don't Have To Agree With Them, To Love Them!

 

You Don't Have To Agree With Them, To Love Them!

I remember many times, when I had disagreements with my parents. There were times when I did not speak to my parents because of our sharp disagreements. Looking back now, with both my parents gone home to heaven, it makes me think how wrong this was. 

You don’t have to agree with your parents to love them—the Bible emphasizes honor and respect, not blind agreement. Scripture teaches that honoring parents is about showing care, gratitude, and dignity, even when you differ in beliefs or choices.  

Key Biblical Insights

Honor ≠ Agreement  

  - Exodus 20:12 commands: “Honor your father and your mother…” This is about respect and value, not necessarily adopting their views.  

  - Ephesians 6:2 calls honoring parents “the first commandment with a promise,” linking it to blessing, not conformity.  

Respect in Disagreement  

  - Proverbs 19:26 warns against dishonoring parents, but disagreement itself isn’t dishonor. Dishonor comes from ridicule, neglect, or contempt.  

  - Leviticus 19:3 says, “Each of you must respect your mother and father.” Respect can coexist with differing convictions.  

Love Through Care and Gratitude  

  - Honoring parents includes caring for them in their needs (see Mark 7:10–12 where Jesus rebukes those who neglect parents under religious pretense).  

  - Love is expressed in kindness, patience, and gratitude (1 Corinthians 13), even when perspectives clash.  

Practical Applications

Boundaries with Love  

  - You can respectfully say, “I see things differently,” while still showing kindness and maintaining relationship.  

  - Love means seeking peace (Romans 12:18), not erasing differences.  

Adult Relationships  

  - As children grow, obedience shifts to honor. Adults are not commanded to obey parents in every matter, but to continue showing respect and care.  

Christ’s Example  

  - Jesus Himself honored His earthly parents (Luke 2:51) yet prioritized God’s mission when it diverged from their understanding (Mark 3:31–35). This shows that love and honor can coexist with disagreement.  

Takeaway

The Bible teaches that love for parents is expressed through honor, respect, and care—not through uniformity of thought. You can disagree with their opinions, choices, or worldview, yet still fulfill God’s command to honor them by treating them with dignity, gratitude, and compassion.  

In a small village, every year the Lantern Festival lit up the night sky. A young boy named Wei grew up watching his parents work tirelessly in the rice fields, rarely having time to enjoy the celebrations. He noticed how his father’s hands were calloused and his mother’s back bent from years of labor, yet they never complained—they only smiled when Wei asked about the festival, saying, “One day, you’ll carry the light for us.”

Years passed, and Wei became a skilled craftsman. On the eve of the Lantern Festival, instead of joining his friends, he built two enormous lanterns shaped like cranes—symbols of longevity and respect. He carried them to the village square and lit them himself, dedicating them to his parents. The villagers gathered, marveling at the glowing cranes soaring above the crowd. Wei’s parents, standing quietly at the edge, were moved to tears. For the first time, they didn’t just watch the festival—they were honored at its heart.

From then on, the cranes became a tradition, reminding everyone that honoring one’s parents is not only about gratitude but about lifting them into the light they gave us.

Let's not let our disagreements destroy the time we have with our parents. This is where pride needs to be put aside, to foster wonderful moments and memories, that we can hold on to as we journey through this life.

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Midnight Praise

"But about midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns of praise to God, and the prisoners were listening to them:..." (Acts 16:25) 

What do you do when you go through a tough time? It is a natural tendency to strike out at the negative situation, and grumble and complain the whole time of the experience.

 Would you have done what Paul and Silas did, while they were placed in a prison at Philippi? They had their robes tore off them, and they were beaten with rods (inflicted with many blows) and thrown into prison, (their feet fastened in stocks) (Acts 16:23-24).

Instead of grumbling, and complaining, and focusing on the negative state they were in; they began to pray and to sing hymns of praise. You ask: How could you pray, and thank God for being in a situation like that?

Paul and Silas knew the key to dealing with negative situations.

When you give praise to God, you take the focus off the negative, and place it on the positive. When we count our blessings, it takes the sting of worry, and discouragement out of our hearts.

And secondly, it helps us to focus on (not the problem) but the problem solver-God. Just as God brought us through tough times before, He will do it again. And we give thanks for the love, and faithfulness of God.

And third: Luke wanted his readers to note, as Paul and Silas were praying and singing praises to God, the other prisoners were listening. What an opportunity to be a witness for God.

Yes God is with us at the midnight hour, when all is not right. But the best thing, at all times, is that God is with us! GP

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Are You A Good Christian Soldier?

Are You A Good Christian Soldier?

Today is Veteran's  Day!

A word of deep gratitude from The Christian Journeyman, to our men and women who sacrificed their lives, so that we could enjoy the freedoms, and blessings that come from being a citizen of this great nation. As I think of Veteran's Day, I think about what it means to be a soldier, and especially a Christian soldier. The Apostle Paul writes to Timothy and instructs him to "endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ."(2 Timothy 2:3) I ask you today, do you look at yourself as a soldier of Jesus Christ? And to go a step further, are you a GOOD soldier, of Jesus Christ? The Ephesians 6:10-20, the Apostle Paul tells us that we are engaged in a battle.

A battle not "against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. (Gal.6:12) Because of this conflict, we are encouraged to put on the whole armor of God. Read what that consists of in (Galatians 6:10-20) But back to what the Apostle Paul's instructs Timothy. Two things he tells him he must do, to be a good soldier of Jesus Christ. First: He must not entangle himself in the affairs of this life. He is to be totally committed and focused on His duty to Christ. And Secondly he is to please his commanding officer, Jesus Christ, who enlisted him into the service of the Kingdom.(2 Timothy 2:3-4) In fighting this spiritual battle it will call for faithfulness, and endurance. But we must remember that we could never fight this battle without the resources that the Lord Jesus gives us. So a big thank you to our Veterans, and a sounding word to my fellow Christians.
"Onward Christian Soldiers!" GP 

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The Beauty Of Brokenness

Praise the Lord!For it is good to sing praises to our God; For it is pleasant, and praise is beautiful. The Lord builds up Jerusalem; He gathers together the outcasts of Israel. He heals the brokenhearted, And binds up their wounds. He counts the number of the stars; He calls them all by name. Great is our Lord, and mighty in power; His understanding is infinite. The Lord lifts up the humble; He casts the wicked down to the ground. (Psalm 147:1-6) 

There are times in our lives when we feel like a vase that has been knocked over, and broken in many pieces. Again we ask the question, why am I being broken? Why is my life falling apart? God what is your purpose in this?

Just like a farmer must break the ground to get the soil ready for planting, there are times when God must break us, to get us ready to receive proper correction. There are times when God must break us, in order to bring about proper change. Although we don't like to be broken, God has our ultimate good in mind.

In our text the Psalmist encourages us to give praise to God. "Praise is beautiful" he says. Praise the Lord, that He is a builder, not a destroyer. He gathers the outcasts, He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. He is our awesome creator who counts the stars, and calls them by name. His power is great, His understanding is infinite, He lifts up the humble, and casts down the wicked.

Our God makes things right. And He can do it in each and everyone of our lives. The question is: Will we cooperate with Him? Will we accept our brokenness, as God working to make us better, stronger, more productive for our good, and for His glory? GP

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Thankful For Our Thorn

"Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But He said to me,"My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness." There fore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me." (2 Corinthians 12:8-10)

The Apostle Paul was suffering from what he called, "a thorn in the flesh" (v.7). What this problem was, is unknown. But it was something that was severe enough that it tormented him. Three times he pleaded with the Lord to take it away. But the Lord's answer to rely upon Him for His strength to endure, is His answer to us today.

The Lord may not always deliver us from specific suffering situations, for reasons we may not understand. But one thing is for certain, we have the Lord's strength to endure whatever it is that comes our way.
In whatever state of suffering, God wraps His arms around us, and helps us to stand.

In the midst of suffering there are those who feel so useless, and feel that there is no value to their lives any longer. The Apostle Paul came to the conclusion that he would boast of his weaknesses, so that the power of Christ might rest on him.(v.10) In essence Paul was saying: "This is not about me, but about the Lord Jesus Christ, and His power and strength for my life".

The question comes: "In our weaknesses, in our limitations, how can we make a difference for the Lord?" When people look at us, and observe our faith, our determination, our confidence, in the midst of trial, what a witness that is! People will see that we have something they need for their lives.

We are not complaining, or carrying with us a negative attitude everywhere we go. But our lips are giving praise, and our lives are being lived out in confidence, and with a vibrant hope.

We will be be strengthened, and the Lord will be glorified, and we will be making more of a difference, than we ever thought possible. GP

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Fury Of A Family

 

Fury Of A Family 

What does "Fury" mean? It means violent, uncontrolled anger, or wild rage. It can also describe the wild or dangerous force of something, like a storm. Additionally, it can refer to a fierce or violent person."

Can families exhibit "fury"? Indeed they can. I have had an anger problem for years. Blowing up over little petty things that frustrated me. Has it affected my family? Yes, it has. They look at you as being like a volcano, that could erupt at any time. And everytime you do, it causes a lot of bitter feelings, that last through the years. 

It really is a form of selfishness, when you don't stop to think about how your anger affects the other members of your family. 

But anger is not the only way that a family can exhibit fury. Selfish expectations, can stir up negative emotions, and bitter feelings. When the other members expect you to accommodate their every whim and wishes. When you don't measure up to what their selfish standards are, you either lash out in anger, or you isolate yourself from the family, saying, "I do not want anything to do with you ever again!" Is that a form of "fury?"

The Bible offers profound insight into the struggles within families, tracing familial discord back to the earliest chapters of Genesis. Cain and Abel, the first siblings, were torn apart by jealousy and unbridled anger (Genesis 4:1–8), setting a precedent for how sin can fracture even the closest bonds. 

James 4:1–2 asks, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” This reveals that much family conflict stems from internal struggles—pride, envy, selfish ambition—that spill outward. 

Jesus Himself acknowledged that following Him could divide households (Matthew 10:34–36), not because He desired conflict, but because truth often challenges comfort and exposes hidden fractures. Yet Scripture also calls families to reconciliation and peace: “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18). The fury of families, then, is not new—but neither is the hope for healing through humility, forgiveness, and love.

I am learning to allow the Lord to help me with my anger problem, and my attitude of expectation. Are my emotional outbursts, and unreasonable expectations, doing as James says: "Producing the righteousness of God?" Or are they producing a "family fury" or the fruit of the Spirit, that the apostle Paul mentions in Galatians 5:22-23? GP 

Walking On The Water

 

Walking On The Water 

 "So He said "Come." And when Peter had come down out of the boat, he walked on the water to go to Jesus. But when he saw that the wind was boisterous he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, saying, "Lord, save me!" (Matthew 14:29-30) 

 We may not look at living life as like walking on water. But this is more than a miracle here in our text. It's a metaphor for navigating life's uncertainties. When Peter steps out of the boat, he walks on the water towards Jesus, defying natural laws. But the moment he notices the wind and waves, fear overtakes him and he begins to sink. Have your ever been there? 

 As Christians we feel confident in our Christian walk. We feel like every day we are getting closer to knowing Jesus, and having a good solid relationship with Him; and then we look at our trials, we look at the winds of trouble and turmoil, and that's when we become afraid, and sink in our fear and despair. 

 Life often mirrors Peter's experience. We step out in faith, trusting God even when circumstances seem impossible. The storms of life---doubt, anxiety, hardship can distract us from the One who sustains us. Yet, just as Jesus immediately reaches out to save Peter, He is always near, ready to lift us when we falter. 

  A man by the name of Eli, was walking one night beside a lake near his home. He was really struggling with what to do because of his mother's illness. He was drowning in decisions. His job was unstable, along with some other issues as well. He remembered the story of pf Peter, how he stepped out of the boat , eyes locked on Jesus, defying the impossible. Eli whispered, "If Peter could walk on water, maybe I can walk through this." He closed eyes his eyes and imagined the lake as being like his life: unpredictable, deep, and full of unknowns. But then He saw it---not the water, but the hand reaching out. Not the storm, but the voice saying, "Come." The next day, Eli made the call he'd been avoiding. He asked for help. He opened up to some friends. He took one step, then another. The storm didn't vanish, but he wasn't sinking anymore. 

The lesson is clear; keep your eyes on Jesus Christ, not the chaos, and you will find the strength to walk through anything! GP

Realigning Our Relationships

 Realigning Our Relationships 

Our relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important because it anchors our identity, purpose, and eternal destiny in divine love and truth. Through Him, we receive forgiveness, grace, and a restored connection with God, which no earthly achievement or relationship can replace. Jesus offers peace in suffering, hope in uncertainty, and unconditional love that transforms our hearts and lives. He is not just a historical figure or moral teacher—He is the living Savior who walks with us daily, guiding, healing, and empowering us to live with meaning and compassion. In Him, we find the fullness of life both now and forever.

Realigning our relationships begins with our relationship with our Savior, and Lord Jesus Christ. If this relationship is solid, it will help our other relationships to be good as well. Realigning relationships through a biblical lens involves embracing principles of reconciliation, forgiveness, love, and humility. Here are some key insights drawn from Scripture:

1. Reconciliation Is a Divine Calling

- 2 Corinthians 5:18 – “God… hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation.”  

  We're called to mend broken relationships just as God reconciled us to Himself through Christ.

- Matthew 5:24 – “First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.”  

 Reconciliation is prioritized even above religious rituals.

Jesus prayed in His prayer in John 17, that we as His disciples, His followers, that we be one, as He and the Father are one. the apostle Paul writes to the church at Ephesus, that we are to "endeavor to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace." (Ephesians 4:3) 

2. Forgiveness Is Foundational

- Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind and compassionate… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Forgiveness is not optional—it’s a reflection of divine grace.

- Matthew 6:14 – “If you forgive other people… your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”  

  Our forgiveness of others is tied to our own spiritual renewal.

We must remember at all times, in all our relationships, that we who are in Christ, are a forgiven people. That means that just as Jesus Christ brought about God's forgiveness by His sacrificial death on the cross, that we are to never hesitate to offer forgiveness to those who have harmed us, or have made it difficult for us in our lives. 

3. Practice Love as an Action

- 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 – “Love is patient, love is kind… it is not proud.”  

  Love is the glue that binds relationships—it’s active, sacrificial, and enduring.

- James 3:18 – “Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.”  

  Love leads to peace, and peace leads to spiritual fruit.

I remember this illustration of love and forgiveness: It is the sweet and appealing fragrance that a flower gives off when it is trampled. The strong natural tendency when we are hurt or harmed by others, is to get even, or to display a cold shoulder, vowing to never have anything to do with that person, or party ever again. But instead of doing what is natural, we must do what is super-natural, and show the love and forgiveness that God demonstrated toward us, through His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ. 

4. Build Trust and Honesty

- Open dialogue, consistency, and accountability are essential for trust.  

  Scripture encourages us to speak truthfully and listen actively to foster deeper bonds.

- James 1:19-20 "Therefore my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God." 

I am one who has, and at times still have anger issues. Sometimes over the littlest things. But I have learned that anger only makes things worse in the conflicts, and arguments we have with others. It is like pouring gasoline on a fire. 

Solomon writes: "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." 

5. Embrace Humility and Selflessness

- Philippians 2:3 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition… value others above yourselves.”  

  Realignment often begins with putting others first and letting go of pride.

In the realignment of our relationships, we need to see what our attitude, and position should be in our relationships. Instead of the attitude of selfishness, and pride, there needs to be an attitude of humility, and placing ourselves in the position of servant-hood. To answer the question: How can I be a blessing to those around me? To those in my family, friends in the community, to everyone that we have contact with. When our attitude is right, so will our relationships.  

If you're navigating a strained relationship, these principles offer a road map toward healing. 

Realigning Our Relationships (Study Guide)

How A Congregation Affects A Pastor?

 

How A Congregation Affects A Pastor? 

Looking back on my years as being a pastor, I remember the congregations I served, and the affect they had on me, and my family. With any vocation, or career, there are the ups and downs. It is definitely a people business. And you deal with people who are very supportive, and those who are obstacles to the work and progress of the work, and growth of the church. A congregation can either be a source of strength or strain for a pastor. The Bible speaks to the fact that the healthiest relationships are built on mutual respect, shared burdens, and spiritual unity. When a church embraces its pastor with grace, prayer, and partnership, it reflects the heart of Christ—and the entire body flourishes.The Bible offers rich insights into how a congregation can profoundly affect a pastor—spiritually, emotionally, and even physically. Here are several key themes drawn from Scripture and biblical reflections:

The Pastor as Shepherd: Mutual Responsibility

Acts 20:28 – “Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock… to feed the church of God.” 

The role of a pastor is to join with the elders of the church in the work of spiritual oversight. It goes very well when the congregation is receptive and cooperative in responding to that care.  
 Hebrews 13:17 – “Obey them that have the rule over you… that they may do it with joy, and not with grief.” 

A cooperative and respectful congregation brings joy to the pastor’s ministry, while resistance or division can cause deep sorrow.

2. Emotional Impact: Healing and Burden Sharing

Many pastors encounter congregants who are spiritually wounded or skeptical due to past church experiences. This requires patience, empathy, and emotional resilience. The key is involvement in the lives of the family of God. Not in a meddlesome way, but in the sense, that if anyone is in need, we will definitely be there for them! 
Galatians 6:2 – “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” When a congregation supports its pastor—through prayer, encouragement, and shared responsibility—it lightens the emotional and spiritual load. As a pastor, I really appreciated the prayers, and encouragement of the congregation. it means so much to know that your church family is behind you, praying for you, and if you had a need, you knew that they would be there for you! That brings joy! 

3. Shared Ministry: Empowerment and Support

Ephesians 4:11–12 – “And he gave some… pastors and teachers; for the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry.” This passage affirms that pastors are not meant to carry the entire ministry alone. 

A congregation that actively serves and grows in faith strengthens the pastor’s leadership. A healthy congregation recognizes the pastor’s humanity and commits to mutual growth, not unrealistic expectations. As pastors lead out in the ministry of the church, it is such an encouragement to see the members wanting to serve as well, How effective a church will be, when the members are following, and allowing the pastor to train and direct in the ministries that the Lord has called us to do. 

4. Spiritual Encouragement: Prayer and Unity

James 5:14 – “Let him call for the elders of the church; and let them pray over him…” Prayer isn’t just for the sick—it’s a vital form of spiritual support for pastors who often face unseen battles. 

A congregation that prays for its pastor fosters spiritual vitality and unity in Christ. Yes, it is encouraged that members, when they are sick, or in need, to come to the church leadership and place themselves under the umbrella of prayer. But just as important, is for the pastor to place himself under that umbrella of prayer as well. 

5. Leadership and Accountability

1 Timothy 3:5 – “For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?” This verse underscores the importance of integrity and balance in a pastor’s life—but also suggests that the congregation must not undermine that balance through unrealistic demands.
I know that churches can have outrageous expectations. You feel like you live in a glass house. A congregation needs to realize that a pastor is human too. He is just as vulnerable to temptations and trials. Instead of expecting perfection, a congregation needs to be an encouraging body of believers, who know that just as they fight their battles with Satan and the world, the pastor is doing the very same thing. Yes, a pastor must lead by example, but for that to happen, the congregation must be by his side to help him do that!  

In summary, these words are so true, that a congregation can make, or break a pastor!

What kind of a congregation are you apart of? I pray that the relationship you have with your pastor, is a solid one. One that is bathed in love and support for the one who has the awesome responsibility of caring for the flock of God! 

How A Congregation Affects A Pastor? (Study Guide)

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How A Pastor Affects A Congregation?

 

How A Pastor Affects A Congregation? 

I remember a pastor friend of mind, who has gone home to be with the Lord, said something to me that I never forgot. He said,"A shepherd does not give birth to sheep, only sheep give birth to sheep." The point he was making to me was that a shepherd's main responsibility, is to take care of the sheep in his fold. Which is a picture of what the main role of a pastor is, in regards to the church. And for a pastor to be effective in the care of his congregation, he must definitely be among the people.   

When a pastor is truly among the people—present, engaged, and relational—it profoundly affects the growth of a congregation. This isn’t just about attendance numbers; it’s about spiritual depth, unity, and transformation. Here’s how Scripture and biblical principles illuminate this dynamic:

1. Shepherding Through Presence

1 Peter 5:2–3 calls pastors to “be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care… being examples to the flock.” A shepherd doesn’t lead from a distance. By walking with the sheep, the pastor builds trust, models Christ-like character, and nurtures spiritual growth. There are pastors that rely on their preaching and teaching of the Word of God. Even though this is the responsibility of every pastor, just as important is the ministry of visitation, and personal encouragement of the Word of God.    It is a statement of the pastor to each member of the congregation, that it's more than just words from the pulpit, but it's his presence and involvement that backs up the words that he shares.   

2. Building Genuine Relationships

When pastors are accessible and relational, they foster a culture of openness and belonging. This reflects Acts 2:44–47, where believers were “together and had everything in common.”      The early church grew because of deep fellowship, not just good preaching. it is important for the members of the congregation to know without a doubt, that their pastor is a close friend, and will celebrate with them in the good times, and comfort them in the bad. When a pastor bonds with his church members, (not just some, but all) it really becomes a very rewarding experience for both the pastor, and the members. 

3. Equipping Through Engagement

Ephesians 4:11–13 teaches that pastors equip the saints for ministry. That equipping happens best through personal interaction—mentoring, listening, and walking alongside people in their daily lives. I heard a professor of a Christian college, talk about how effective it is when a pastor taps his members on the shoulder, and directs them towards a special personal ministry. As a pastor, you have to spend time with the members, to know them personally, in order to help them to be fitted, and framed for their work in the church, and their witness to the world. 

4. Teaching That Connects

A pastor who knows their people can preach with relevance and compassion. 2 Timothy 4:2 urges pastors to “correct, rebuke and encourage—with great patience and careful instruction.” That kind of teaching requires knowing the struggles and joys of the congregation. As a pastor, the more you know the members of your congregation, the more you will be able to share Scripture that will really hit the target as far as meeting their needs. 

5. Guiding Through Crisis

Pastors who are present during grief, conflict, or hardship become spiritual anchors. Acts 20:28 reminds leaders to “keep watch over yourselves and all the flock… Be shepherds of the church of God.” Presence during pain builds spiritual resilience. It is vitally important that pastors are there for the members when they are going through various trials. As a minister of Jesus Christ, in those times of trial, you represent Christ. You are the feet, the voice, the loving arms of Jesus, that will make such a difference in the lives of those who are going through difficulties in the family of God. . 

6. Modeling Servant Leadership

Philippians 2:3–4 and John 13 show Jesus serving His disciples. Pastors who serve humbly—visiting homes, praying with members, joining in community work—model the gospel in action. This inspires others to serve and deepens the church’s witness. A pastor is not to be like a dictator, but is to be like Jesus, who was a servant leader. When  Jesus washed the disciples feet, He showed them an example, of how they were to minister to one another. When a pastor is seen serving, and ministering to the members of his church, every time it speaks to the church, of how we are to follow that example, and be strongly involved in ministering to one another. 

In short, a pastor’s presence among the people is not just pastoral—it’s transformational.          

It turns sermons into conversations, leadership into discipleship, and a congregation into a family. Growth follows naturally when people feel seen, known, and spiritually nurtured.

How A Pastor Affects A Congregation? (Study Guide)

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